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  • Ennie Fakoya.

Christmas is the most confusing time of the year.

The mixed feelings of the Christmas holidays - insights from young Black Womxn in their 20s.

The Christmas holidays means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Asking someone you know how they plan on spending Christmas can either be a fruitful conversation or cut short by an incredibly awkward ‘I dunno.’

I’ve never really cared for Christmas. I wouldn’t consider myself a Holiday Hater per se, but in recent years I've realised how little I actually involve myself in the celebrations. I enjoy the food, I enjoy cooking the food (sometimes) but things like presents haven’t been a staple for the past couple of years because the money’s just not there.

I’ve recently been able to afford buying presents for my friends and family, which I quite enjoy so I’m looking forward to that (and the food.) Honestly, I don’t think I’d change anything major. Decorating and things like that would be nice, but I never want to feel like i’m less than for not doing so. I don't think anyone should.

Despite 88% of the UK’s population celebrating Christmas this year, it’s not without the onslaught of increasingly expensive dinners, presents, and the inevitable seasonal depression.

But before we get too into the sad stuff, we asked young, black people in their 20’s what the holidays look like for them and how they plan on spending it in the future.

Hannah Obikudu, 22, Manchester. 

EF: How have you been spending Christmas?

HO: I’ve always spent Christmas back home with my family. Somehow we’d always end up in a village. Yeah, THE village™. It’s always been a family sort of thing so I’ve always loved Christmas. Even when I used to live in Tunisia and spend Christmases there, it was always so hot, there was no snow, but I’d still beg my mom for us to put up decorations on November 1st.

EF: What are your plans for Christmas this year?

HO: For the last couple of years I’ve spent Christmas with friends, which isn’t a bad thing but I do miss my family.

EF: How do you want to spend Christmas in your own home?

HO: I imagine it’s going to be very decorated. We've got tinsel, baubles, a big ass tree - you know the works. I just want to be able to feel the Christmas spirit. It’ll be so cheesy because I want to go all out, I love Christmas.

Abigail Fakoya, 27, Essex.

EF: How has Christmas been for you?

AF: That’s such a broad question, but Christmas gives me mixed feelings. The reasons I like it is pretty silly.

EF: Silly reasons are till reasons.

AF: Very true. It just feels like a stressful time to me. Its the end of the year, its winter, everything is wet and dark. I’m already annoyed most of the time and then I see the lights outside and its like you’re supposed to be happy. It’s a happy season, you’re the only one here that isn’t happy.’ It’s a weird feeling.

The meaning behind Christmas is something to celebrate and when I think of Christmas I think of work. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, especially when you have people over, but for me it can get overwhelming. I never feel like I can really enjoy myself because there’s always something to do.

EF: What does Christams look like for you in the future?

AF: I’d do a Christmas dinner. Nothing crazy, just a cute dinner. I know it’s probably not that silly but I’d prefer smaller gatherings that require less work. I want to omit the stress around it for the people that are going to be in my life because the holidays have always been confusing for me. I can’t control how other’s feel, but I’d like to at least try.

The commodification of everything under the sun also makes it harder to experience Christmas as a holiday. It’s become more about what we can buy and how much we can buy. But that’s a conversation for later.

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